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our friends say the darndest things.

July 26, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: house calls, kelli, photos, playhouse Leave a Comment

So many things were said this week I don’t want to forget.

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I’ve been sick recently–really sick for a week and then a cough and runny nose that stuck around for another week. One of the girls had her arms around my neck as I was coughing one day.

“Oh, Kelli. When we are sick you take us to hospital, but when you are sick, there is no one to take you to the hospital.”

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IMG_0945Stephen had gone to watch a movie with a friend one evening, so I let a few kids play games in our house while I worked on a painting project. Around 9:30pm, we shared a bowl of pretzels before they headed back home. As one of the girls left, she hugged me and said, “Your house is so happy. I like it here.”

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I was baking bread to take to church with us and chatting with Thida in the kitchen. She was commenting on our two ovens—which have both been given to us—and that many of our friends give us so many nice things, which is very true. I agreed and told her that foreigners are often coming and going, and they are very kind to give us things.

She suddenly panicked, asking, “You’re not going to move back to America, are you? You can’t move back.”

“We will stay for a few more years at least, and then we don’t know. We like it here, but we aren’t sure. We talk about maybe moving to Burma someday…but not yet. We won’t leave Mae Sot yet.”

“Oh, you cannot go back. I will cry and cry and cry. You cannot go back. Where do you want to go in Burma?”

I told her a few places we’ve considered, and she said, “Oh, in a few years, your Burmese will be so good! I will come to Burma to visit you. I’ll look around and ask, Where are Stephen & Kelli? And all I will see is Burmese people! You will be Burmese!”

Yeah, something like that. I’m sure there is only thing that makes me stick out in a crowd around here 🙂

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IMG_0553This guy is always saying the most adorable things. If he hears the washer—spinning, water coming in, changing cycles—he comes running, shouting, “WATCH! WATCH! WATCH!” If I’m cooking, “Up! Up! Help! Help!” If I’m holding another child, he whines, “No, not (other child’s name). Hold me! Hold Zen Yaw!” If we’re singing, he knows, “Hallelujah!” And if we’re saying goodbyes, he has learned the English for, “See you tomorrow!”

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Melt my heart.

a peace offering.

July 25, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: house church, kelli, photos 1 Comment

Shortly after we started attending our church, we offered to provide the communion bread once a month. Having a small bread business, it seemed a simple way to support them and even connect the women in our community to the church.

They have LOVED the bread.

I don’t know what you believe about communion elements; I don’t know what your church does with the extras. We live in an impoverished area, and we don’t attend an extremely wealthy church, so the idea of wasting it is unheard of. As soon as the service is over, there is a crowd around the remaining bread.

Knowing they loved it so much, I made some for fun this week. I made three batches of their favorite and brought little rolls for everyone to add into our meal of pork fat & rice. {I know, be jealous. And know that I focus on the cucumbers.}

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This is my favorite picture of Pranee & Ah Tee yet. They have such big hearts and great facial expressions 🙂

The bread was such a hit! And since we brought sixteen people (of forty) and provided more than a few distractions during the service, it was a nice peace offering to a church that is so loving and kind to us!

growth.

July 25, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: house church, kelli, photos Leave a Comment

She comes every Saturday to teach the kids at 5pm.  She knows them by name and takes roll, asking where those missing are.

She was thrilled last week when she found out we had a copier in our printer, and at our house, nonetheless.

IMG_0975This week, she made her own flannel graph with a blanket hung over two chairs. She kept the kids locked on her, somehow intrigued by the same story we’ve told them before. She doesn’t have to shout over the chatter like we did; she’s got them enthralled.

I’m telling you, she’s a professional.

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Yesterday we pulled into church with another car full. Suddenly, everyone is excited to be going to church, and they are asking us to go. It feels unreal, and I find I’m skeptical as 6 o’clock rolls around and it’s raining, that they won’t really go. I find I’m skeptical that they’ll go once and then not return.

But they are going. They are returning.

And admittedly, this week didn’t go as smoothly as last. There was three-year-old breaking down in the middle, an eight-year-old standing on a chair, and a glass of water dumped on the floor.

But, still, there were 16 of us there, and we all wanted to be! Things are growing.

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As we sat talking with some friends this week, I realized how much of a blessing this church is to us. It’s just beyond words, an answer to prayer, above and beyond and what we could have asked or imagined.

They love this community so well. They are learning names. They are celebrating with us when hoards join us for church. They are welcoming people in with smiles that aren’t welcomed in so many places. They are teaching in ways they understand. They are using repetition for those who can’t read.

It’s incredible.

IMG_0570As I watched her with her homemade flannel graph, I realized how far we are from this—knowing the culture, knowing the language, knowing the nuances. From letting a story and a love flow out of us smoothly and understandably. It would have taken us so many years more to get to that point, and yet she was here this week, on top of things.

And yet I didn’t feel intimidated. Suddenly, I felt like it was okay that I was who I was. It’s okay that we’re better at hospital visits and homework help. It’s okay that we’re better at opening our doors and living life here. It’s okay that language learning just isn’t that quick for us.

And it’s okay that they are amazing evangelists and amazing story tellers and know three languages.

God knew this was coming all along. He knew we needed to till the soil and plant the seeds. He knew they were coming to douse them with water, and that we’d all be sitting back together, celebrating the growth.

We have prayed for this, friends. We have prayed and prayed and prayed, and he is answering. I can’t even really describe the feelings I am feeling: after the loneliness of feeling like we were in this community alone; the prayers for help; the prayers for language; the prayers for the seemingly endless road ahead; the prayer after prayer of, “Oh, Lord, LET SOMETHING GROW.”

He has heard; he has answered. And he is such a good, good Father.

on making it.

July 21, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: kelli, photos, stephen 1 Comment

Today, we’re making it.

We swam laps early this morning and I headed off to my Burmese lesson. I sat and chatted with my Burmese teacher as he helped me write rules for the community center opening today; helped me create a computer log book; and helped me write out a checklist for our bread manager.

I went to the market to get food for Aung Moe, the blind man in the community, and to get our vegetables for the week. I floated from stall to stall, knowing many of the sellers, waving at Daw Ma Oo selling flowers, and filling bags with fresh veggies for us and fish paste for Aung Moe. I filled my motorbike basket and then balanced a bag between my legs.

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I came home and chatted with the girls sitting outside of our house. We looked at pictures of the Chan’s new baby in Canada. They helped me deliver food to the family that cooks for Aung Moe and load up my fridge.

I sat down to write out all the notes from Burmese class, and it didn’t take me forever. I just wrote it, like those squiggles are somehow becoming a natural formation of my hand.

I counted up Flour & Flowers orders for this week and put them into the oh-so-snazzy chart Stephen made for me. It spit out the counts for this week, which I wrote out onto paper and posted for Pyo Pyo, who will come to start some of the recipes tonight.

At four, Thida came with her kids and we gave her an “orientation” of our house and the new plan for the community center {complete with a binder in Burmese that I’m a little proud of}. We opened our doors to so many kids and some adults until 8pm, and it, well, wasn’t horrible. I only cleaned up after three kids peeing on the floor, and I managed to teach multiple kids Sorry, Mancala, & Uno. I didn’t feel crazy at 8pm when they all cleared out and I started cooking dinner.

I don’t know when it happened: when this became normal; when this became home; when the chaos stopped overwhelming me. I don’t know when it just became usual for the kids to pile into our house for homework help. I don’t know when those sentences just started rolling out in Burmese. I don’t know when bread became less overwhelming each week.

I do remember when it felt like it took all day to do anything. I do remember when I was nervous driving the motorbike or car. I do remember when I was scared of blood and sores. I do remember when I felt so confused by all the languages in the market. I do remember when bread felt like it took my whole week to coordinate, and I wasn’t sure that was how I wanted to spend my whole week, or when it would get easier. I do remember being oh-so-tired after trying to manage anything in the community or anything in Burmese.

But I find us here now, and we’re making it. Somewhere along the way, things started working and feeling less like we were always. going. up. mountains.

I always thought I wasn’t made for this. I felt like I was a fish out of water, or swimming up stream, or both. Why was I here? Was it this horrible and hard for everyone? Did everyone just feel like they were always tired? And not sure what from?

Maybe. Maybe not. I’m not sure.

But suddenly, on this random day in July, nearly six years in, I think we just might make it here after all.

singing & listening.

July 18, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: house church, kelli, photos Leave a Comment

A few of the kids have been asking us to join for church on Sunday evenings.

While we welcome them to our Saturday program and the Sunday afternoon kids program (and had fifteen came yesterday!), we’ve been hesitant to have kids join us at the evening service.

IMG_0508This is primarily because most of the members of our last church thought we had an orphanage due to adult-child ratio we were bringing to the service, and managing 10+ kids means you are doing just that: managing 10+ kids.

But it’s also hard to turn down church, when we really would love for them to come.

So yesterday, I checked with the pastor and his wife, explaining that a few of the older kids–over 10, namely–were wanting to come. Was it okay if we brought a few?

She replied, “Yes! They speak Burmese and they’ll understand! Let them come!”

(I felt there was an implied, And they’ll understand more than YOU! But it wasn’t spoken. Or at least not were I could understand it!)

So the one twelve-year-old girl who had been asking and asking and asking, I told her: yes, she could come. But it wasn’t to play–you can play at our house. This was for singing and listening. Capeesh?

Well, one thing led to another, and soon her grandmother was coming! And her three-year-old nephew. This is in addition to a family of 4 that has been joining weekly. We were pretty excited about this. Three adults, and their own children?! That’s a great adult-child ratio, and we’re always excited to see adults interested. In anything.

Then a few more things led to a few more, and a couple older kids asked if they could join, too. We agreed, on the same premise: not for play; singing & listening only.

IMG_0510By the time we piled in the car, there were 13 of us in our little four-seater Zuk! We crowded in–really, really crowded in, and I was pouring sweat by the time we got there, because having people sit on top of you is hot, especially when it’s hot.

By this point, I was nervous. I was excited, yes, but this was a lot of kids. We had two parents watching their own two kids, which I felt little responsibility for. We had one parent watching their two kids, which because of how much time they spend at our house, I did feel a little responsibility for. And then we had four without parents that I felt a whole lot of responsibility for.

We took up four rows of the church. And since there are only about 30 people there each week, we were a big percentage. We are never subtle, really, despite our best efforts.

This church, though–one of the things we love about them–they are so amazing at welcoming people. They learn names and say hellos; they remember the kids and welcome them in. They say hello from the front, give them a clap of welcome, and during prayer pray for our community.

IMG_0517The kids did AMAZING. Better than we ever could have expected, really. They sang along, they found the verses and read along; and they did their very best to understand what was going on and ask questions quietly.

Unfortunately, to most of the questions I was asked, I wasn’t sure. I’m still struggling enough to follow along without keeping five kids in the loop! (What are we doing now? Uh, I’m not sure; just one minute. What verse did he say? Uh, not sure. I missed that reference. What is he talking about? Uh, not sure. This verse, but…)

The kids stayed so quiet & listened so well. The lowest point was when the girl next to me was singing to herself during the sermon, which to her credit was in the category of “sing & listen” and is probably deemed a “quiet” activity in Burmese culture (but was still singing out loud). I didn’t actually stop her until she started clapping along with her song–again, in the middle of the sermon. I then emphasized that this was the listen portion of the evening.

I was amazed how quickly it went from Stephen & I sitting next to each other week after week, helping each other understand the sermon; to suddenly managing a host of kids sitting between us and knowing I’m giving them mom-eyes.

We rounded out the night with a meal after the service, which everyone loved! We filled our own table, because again–subtlety is our specialty! And I’m sure the kids ate their weight in rice. The three-year-old ate three times as much as I did.

IMG_0522We asked for help with rides on the way home, and three kids and I climbed into the church truck to catch a ride allowing Zuk a break from carrying all of us. It makes for a long night, getting back past 10, but we were so thankful for such a great church that welcomes our neighbors in. And we’re praying they enjoy it and want to learn more!

sons & daughters.

July 11, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: housewares, kelli Leave a Comment

During Flour & Flower deliveries on Friday, we were discussing how Kelvin & Laura have just had their firstborn baby back in Canada this week. They were asking the weight and comparing her to their babies’ weight. And they were obviously over-the-moon that she was a little girl.

So I asked, “Are girls or boys ‘good’?” (Note: I am asking two women the car with me. One has six sons, ranging from about 10 to 35, and the other has two sons, 2 months and 4 years.)

Daw Ma Oo: Girls.
Me: Pyo Pyo?
Pyo Pyo: Girls.
Me: What about all Burmese people? What do most people think?
Daw Ma Oo & Pyo Pyo: Girls.
Me: Why?
Pyo Pyo: Girls are better behaved; calm-hearted. Boys are naughty.
Me: But, Daw Ma Oo, don’t you have SIX boys?!”
Daw Ma Oo: Yes. Daw Ma Oo is TIRED.

food donations.

July 9, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: Uncategorized Leave a Comment

There is an organization in town that offers food donations to poor communities every quarter-or-so. I’m sure they have a system, or some way to communicate it, because everyone in a mile or so radius come to our street and plays in our yard until the car arrives. Somehow, they know.

And it’s a huge community event, while everyone waits in line to write their name down and show their number of kids–only those present are counted in the rations–and take home a bag (or a few bags for some families!) of food.

Tonight, Stephen was coming back from a bike ride as one mother stop to talk to him. This conversation occurred in Burmese:

“Stephen, you’re friends are very nice! They gave us a lot of food!”
“Oh, I don’t know them. They aren’t my friends.”
“No, you’re friends over there. They gave us food.”
“I don’t know them; we aren’t friends.”
“Yes! They are from America! Your friends! Over there!”
“Yes, I don’t know them.”

She then turned to her daughter, who speaks pretty good English, and told her Stephen didn’t understand. Tell him in English, “Your American friends over there, they are very nice and gave us food.”

“Yes, I don’t know them, but I’m very glad they are helping!” Apparently all foreigners are dear friends of ours!

Stephen came into shower, and a bit later another friend came running to the door. “The Americans! They want to meet you!” I went out to talk to them, finding a group of two foreigners–neither American by the accent, both living elsewhere in Asia–and two Asians, likely Thai & Burmese. They were indeed waiting to talk to us and asked how long we’ve been here and what we do. One of the translators kept repeating, “They just said so many good things about you! They said we must meet you because you are so kind.”

It was great to meet them really, and they were working with a Catholic organization seeking unity among different religions. We love it when other churches are pouring into the community in any way, but particularly with food donations: this is something we simply can’t venture into. The minute we begin giving out food we’d have endless streams. But for them to come regularly and bless these families with gifts of food means so much to them, and they do know they are connected to churches. It all makes a great little picture of Jesus’ love, from many different directions and people.

And, it also gives us a laugh. So thankful our friends came to share food today 🙂

may God bless us.

July 9, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: kelli Leave a Comment

Yesterday, I stood rocking a sick baby to sleep while her young mother kneaded bread in the kitchen, and I read these lines on our wall:

May God bless us with discomfort as easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships, so that we may live from deep within our hearts.
May God bless us with anger at injustice, oppression, and exploitation of God’s creations, so that we may work for justice, freedom, & peace.
May God bless us with tears to shed for those who suffer pain, rejection, hunger, and war, so that we may reach out our hands to comfort them and to turn their pain into joy.
And may God bless us with just enough foolishness to believe that we can make a difference in the world, so that we can do what others claim cannot be done: to bring justice and kindness to all our children and all our neighbors who are poor.

This inspires me every time I read it, multiple times a week. It reminds me that our lives here–the discomfort, anger, tears, and ridiculousness–is a blessing, not a curse. It brings me to tears on the hardest days and prompts me to stay, stay, stay and love, love, love.

And this week, it nearly brought me to tears for places far outside of our street. I think of how this isn’t just here in my little border town, where I am treated differently at a police stop because of my skin. I thought of the racist struggles in America, as I watch my country fall apart from way over here. I think of ISIS and countries facing terror and fear and attacks daily. I think of upcoming elections, while one candidate is being considered for indictment and the other is…well, I have no words.  I think of Brexit and the racism coming out of Great Britain.

There is always an us and them, whether based on race or religion or language or money or education or papers.

It is worldwide.

And then I heard Stephen listening to the news in the next room, and we learned of Dallas. And it just
keeps
breaking.

I just keep praying this over all of us: that we would all have discomfort so that we live deeply; that we would have anger so that we work for something better; may we mourn with those who mourn and rejoice with those who rejoice. May we foolishly give ourselves for a little piece of the Kingdom to be here among us today.

And may we take heart, because He has overcome the world.

singing.

July 5, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: house church, kelli, photos Leave a Comment

We are loving having our Burmese church so involved in our community! This week, Stephen captured a song they learned in both English & Burmese.

IMG_0338 (1)They also made the traditional bracelets that every kid makes at their Christian summer camp. I don’t even know what to call them, but the kids absolutely loved it. I really enjoy how thankful they are for every opportunity.

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Shortly after church, we enjoyed some time coloring in the house. There were kids everywhere, and it was lovely. We even found a place for one girl’s little rat baby, because why not?

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Also, this little guy has learned at least some of a song from church! It’s adorable to hear him singing|shouting Hallelujah. We’re still trying to sort out what the rest of the song is…

4 july.

July 5, 2016 by Stephen & Kelli Spurlock Filed Under: kelli, photos Leave a Comment

I never know how to celebrate holidays here, but we do want to try! For this year’s 4th of July we enjoyed a nice swim in the rain, and then we went to the nice grocery store in town and bought the foods we miss most from the States!

For Stephen, that was a burger with a fresh homemade bun. And some French fries & grilled veggies on the side.

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For me, it’s salad.

IMG_0363 (1)We splurged for delicious lettuce, rocket, zucchini, and–the best!–blueberries & pecans. We found some goat milk in town and attempted goat cheese–a form of ricotta made from goats milk; it was pretty close! I looked forward to this salad for days and it was ahhhhhmazing! It completely lived up to my own hype.

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So happy 4th of July. We’re so thankful to have been born free, with papers and in blessed families; even if that is just so we could move to another country!

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